- I was just thinking this sujcebt this morning our fears basically. Whatever we are most afraid of is what we need to face the most. When we intentionally avoid something, regardless of the reason, we are actually giving it even more of our attention and energy attention and energy that can be used for something more productive and positive. Avoiding something simply keeps us hijacked by that thing. We hold the keys to our own emotional freedom!I also was thinking about how facing things from our past keep not only us from emotional hijacking ourselves but from others using emotional blackmail, (or any other kind of blackmail). If we face it, get it over with, we keep our power; we get stronger and wiser.